BUSINESS MADE EASY

Last sunday my uncle in surulere called me for a family meeting in his house  On getting there I found out that my cousin had a problem with his wife. His wife had packed out of their house and was saying she was no longer interested in the marriage.She had narrated to us, how her husband frolicked with girls all over the town, and as if that was not enough, he had gone to the extent of recording his sexcapades on phone. She said one of such video has been uploaded on the internet
and its been circulated around on social network and blackberry phones. According to her, the most annoying part of it was that it was her friends that told her about the video and how it got to her friend she does not know. She further described how hubby was having sex with two girls in the video and how devastated she was when she found out that her hubby was even having oral sex with these girls. She said she was afraid for her life and that she might one day get infected.

My cousin on his part was very sorry for his indiscretion and told us he had no excuses whatsoever, as he did not know what came over over him. He told us how he was invited to a blackberry group by his friends. He said it was in the group that he met the girls. He said he didnt know that the girls were videotaping him all the while they were together. It was the girls that posted this video on the group and obviously uploaded it on the internet. On why they did it, he did not know.

The introduction of smartphones into the Nigeria market is a welcome developement for the upwardly mobile. You can operate your business from just anywhere you are with your andriod, galaxy tabs and blackberry phone. It is business made easy. And thats why you find out that these days prostitutes (Or runz girls as they choose to be called these days) dont really need to hang out on the street corners waiting for customers. All they need is to get a smartphone, take a few sexy pic
and post them on different dating site and social network media and then wait for their customers. There are so many of these sites that has tremendously helped their business. Sometimes you see them sending random messages to people on facebook asking to be added. Now how do you add somebody you dont know? I get these messages most times and when I check and find out I dont know them, and we dont even have mutual friends, I simply delete.

 The most painful part of this is that our undergraduates young girls in our tertiary institiutions are the worst culprits in all these. They have turned themselves into cheap commodities, selling their bodies to any available man all in the name of survival. With the use of blackberry they are able to send their nude pictures and videos to different men all in the name of phone sex. Every minute you see them changing their display picture on their blackberry phones all in the bid to attract would be customers. The level of moral decadence in our society is so applalling. I really pray for our young girls and I wonder what kind of mothers they would turn out to be.

Some days ago, I read somewhere of a girl who was about to get married, however, a few days before the marriage, gist came to the fiance that she used to be a big time runz girl when she was in school. The guy called off the marriage and of course the girl was heart broken. Some people argued that the guy was mean and that he never wanted to marry the girl, they said that what the girl did then, was purely for  survival, but then again are there not better ways to survive than selling your body. I really wish they would learn.

SEX TOYS

Hello people, its been quite a while since I posted here, about six months or thereabout. I keep promising to be regular here, but my schedule is so tight that I hardly have that time. There have been times that I have had so many things on my mind to write about, but can't just make out the time to sit down in front of my computer and type. Its so crazy....lol. In any case, I think I would be more consistent this time around ( I always make this promise though lol)

I was in  a bar last night and I heard some men discussing about sex toys. The discussion was so intense and the arguements were so strong that you would think it would degenerate into a brawl. One of the guys, A tall lanky dude in his early forties was telling the rest of the guys that he had gotten a vibrator for his wife. They were like, what the f...k? Why does he need to get a sex toy for his wife? one of them made a joke that he was sure that the guy could no longer get it up and that was why he now needed the assistance of a vibrator to help his marriage. However, the guy was so calm and laughed at their ignorance. He took his time to explain to them that getting a sex toy for his wife does not mean he had problem with his sex life. he told them that the nature of his job made it difficult for him to be around most of the time and he felt it wise for him to get his wife a vibrator which he considered a much lesser evil to infidelity. The rest of the guys didnt feel that way. They argue that gradually the vibrator was going to take his place and that the wife would no longer enjoy his manhood as she would be more accustomed to the vibrator.

I sat at my corner and pondered on what they were saying. The issue of sex toys in Nigeria is gradually coming alive. I have a friend of mine, a lawyer, who lived in Abuja, who told me how he made lots of money selling sex toys in Abuja. He said that initially when he started the business he didnt think it would fly. Before he knew it, he became so popular so much so that he had to struggle to meet the demand. The issue of sex toys is something that is alien to our culture and that is why those men in the bar yesterday found it absurd that their friend got one for his wife. In my own opinion, I see nothing wrong in the use of sex toys and I dont see how any woman can replace any man with it or get so used to it. I think our attitude towards this stems from our general perception towards sex. There are still some of us who see sex as been sacred and solely for procreation. There are still some, that do not believe that the woman should enjoy sex. Yes even in our modern day Nigeria, we still have lots of them. Those are the kind of men that see no reason why their wives would crave for sex when they are not available. Those are the kind of men I saw in that bar last night.

So tell me what you think. Do you think the guy who bought a vibrator for his wife was wrong or his friends were wrong? send in your comments.

Occult girls

I read this story recently of a guy who should considered himself a player. However, he met a charming girl whom he said he fell in love with. One night he said, the girl woke him up and told him she had a confession to make. Initially he thought she was just been mischievous so he advised her to go back to sleep. But she won't listen she started crying and told the guy that if she does not confess, she would die by morning. It was then he realized that she was serious.
He immediately got up and asked her what the problem was. She told him that she belong to an occult world that specializes in sending young pretty girls out to destroy the destiny of young men, and that anybody they sleep with, would never make it in life and that they would destroy their destiny. She told him she had tried to destroy his, but it just wasn't working. She had collected his sperm, put something in his food and all what not, but nothing seem to be happening. And that this particular night there is this beautiful old woman that was with them in the room. The old woman is telling her to confess her sins to him or she would die before morning, and that was why she was confessing.
Now this story brings to mind a lot of questions, as in does this really happen? If it does, how does one know which girl is occult or occult free? I personally don't dabble into what is termed spiritual or what seem to be beyond what the eye can see, but as it is right now this kind of story brings a lot of concerns most especially as it concerns young men. I would have waved this particular story aside to be a mere fabrication of the writer's imagination, but I personally know this writer and know he's not one that would cook up such a story.
Long ago there was this friend of mine who packed out of his matrimonial home because according to him, his wife was an ogbanje who was out to ruin him. He said he has found out the wife was the reason why his once successful business was going down. A lot of people didn't understand then why the guy had to pack out, because there was no problem in the home and the couple had 5 kids between them, so people were wondering what was happening. He only told a few close friends like us. At that time I used to attack the man that he was spending too much time with spiritualist who were eating his money and telling him bullshit which he was buying and that he should go back and settle with his wife. However after reading this story I was wondering if really these things do happen. These days when I walk on the road and I see any girl or woman I would ask myself if they belong to that same occult world. This can really be scary. Please post your comments and let me know what you think about this.

Loyalty

Hello people !! Happy new year to everybody. I hope you guys had a wonderful holiday. I'm really sorry I was unable to complete my last post. I have been so busy, I hardly have time to update my blog. Well I do have time now since I'm at home because of the strike on subsidy removal, so I can blog as much as I want to now...lol.
I have been watching movies since the strike began, and one movie that I have always love to watch is the BEST MAN. In the movie the groom found out that his best man who happened to be his best friend had slept with his bride back then while they were in college.
The anger he felt when he found out was so much that he could have killed his friend right there if not for the people around.
A few days ago, one of my friends called me and was reporting another of our friends to me. He told me that he caught this other friend exchanging number with his new girl. He was so mad at him that they got into a quarrel. It was then he now called to tell me he was going to destroy that guy and he would stop at nothing to achieve that, and that the particular guy was fond of sleeping with his friend's girls all the time. I tried to calm him down and told him not to do anything and that if his girl was really his, no amount of enticement from the other guy can snatch her from him.
This however got me thinking, why would you want to sleep with a girl that is going out with your friend? Its a common occurence these days with friends sleeping with the same girl. As far as your friend is dating a girl you ought to take your eyes off that girl no matter how beautiful or attractive she might be. Its a matter of discipline which must be strictly adhered to as far as the code of friendship is concerned. This brings me back to the girls who sleep with the boyfriend's friend. They make themselves look stupid and cheap, and as far as I'm concerned any girl of mine that sleeps with my friend is not worthy of been my girl. Period.
I remember a particular incident that happened back then in school. One of my friends was going out with this girl and they were so into each other that they were practically living together. However, this guy now went to do his industrial attachment and so was out of school for about six months. During this period his girl was all over me. Initially I didn't read any meaning to it, I just felt she was getting close to me because she was lonely. I checked on her when I could. But then she didn't read it that way. She wanted more from me. I didn't notice it but my other friends did and called my attention to it that the girl wanted to sleep with me. To cut long story short, we were at a party one day when she pretended to be drunk and her friends called me to take her home. I took her home that night but alas as soon as we got to her house she was all over me begging me to have sex with her and even tearing my clothes in the process. I almost gave in because I was high too and yes she was really attractive. However, I thought to myself what would happen if my friend found out. I know how painful it would be for him and how he would have felt betrayed by me. I resisted the temptation that day and left the girl. Needless to say she never spoke to me again.
The sad part of it is that people went to tell my friend that I had slept with his girl because they saw us leave the party together that night. You can imagine the bitterness he felt when he came back and heard all those stories. I told him the truth about what happened and even though he didn't believe me my conscience was clear. We still best of friends today and all parties involved are all married. My other friends all blame me for not going ahead to sleep with the girl that night saying it would not have been my fault since they were all witnesses to the fact that the girl was the one throwing herself at me. I told them that I was comfortable with my decision and would not throw away friendship for a few minutes of pleasure. Today my friend and I are still friends though we have never discussed that issue ever since but I know some other of our friends have told him the truth.
I believe in loyalty in friendship and that involves such acts as looking the other way as far as your friend's woman is concerned.
Tell me what you think.

JOLLY PAPA

According to the good books, there is time for everything. There's a time to be born, there's a time to grow, there's a time to play and there's a time to get serious . If at the appointed time however, you do not act accordingly, that time will pass you by and you will have yourself to blame as time waits for nobody.
When we were born into the world, it is expected that at a certain age u are expected to have started school. If you are not in school at that time, eyebrows are raised at your parents as in why you still at home. At another stage it is expected that you should have finished both you elementary and secondary school and you ought to be in the university. So when all your mates are in the university and you are still battling with JAMB, the world seem to come down on you. Also at the point when all your mates have graduated from school, and you spending your 8th year for a four years course...you will surely not be in the good books of anyone, not your parents nor siblings nor even your friends.
So it is when you become a full grown man. It will get to a point when all your mates are getting married and settling down. It is expected that you act accordingly. However this seem not to be the case these days. A lot of brothers are afraid of commitment and so try to shy away from anything as close as to what you call marriage. You have them in their 40s going on to 50s and they are still single. I call them Jolly papas. When you ask them they tell you that getting married is throwing away your freedom. Sometimes I wonder what freedom it is they r talking about, because even as married as a lot of men are, they still hang out in the clubs and bar when they want to. They still have all the groove and fun they had as bachelors only this time they do it in moderation. So it baffles me when these men shy away from marriage.

Who's Bad?

I have often wondered why women always think that men are generally bad and that men are dogs and womanisers that chase after anything in skirt. Sometimes I would want to ask who's really bad, men or women when it comes to infidelity.
It would be easy for women to conclude that men are the worst culprit in this case, however I would want to disagree with that notion. Women are so secretive in their dealings that its almost impossible to catch them at their game so they tend to appear the saint to everyone. If we know the amount of women that seek sexual pleasure outside their homes we would be greatly amazed. But you see the women are the masters of their game while the men foolishly flaunt their stupidity.

Let's take the case of Bimbo and Emmanuel as example. They have been married for 6 years and are blessed with 2 kids. Emma was a top management staff in one of these communication company until he lost his job, while Bimbo works in shipping line. When Emma lost his job, Bimbo was there for him and was very supportive while he tried to get back on his feet trying his hands on business. Eventually things picked up for him and he was really doing well in his business, and they became a happy family once again.
However, trouble reared its ugly head one day when a particular number kept on flashing Emma. At a point Bimbo noticed that Emma had to put the phone on silent unknown to him that Bimbo knew that the phone was still ringing because the lights were still blinking. She however kept her cool. At night when they had gone to bed and Emma was fast asleep she got hold of his phone and dial d number on her phone.
The next day she called the number and pretended to be Emma's sister and told the girl at the other end of the line that Emma asked her to give her some money since he was travelling and that the girl should come over to her office to pick up the money. The girl thank her and promised to come over to her office later that day. She was however smart and sent a text message to Emma thanking him for the cash, to which Emma replied her to ask which cash was she talking about?
To cut long story short all hell was let loosed at home that night because Bimbo was so bitter that she threatened to dissolving the marriage. She claimed that after she had done everything to make sure they were comfortable when things were bad with Emma now he wanted to pay her back with sleeping around with women all over the place. Emma on his own, felt very bad and did everything to appease Bimbo, but Bimbo would have none of that as she eventually packed out of the house. It took the intervention of both families to settle the matter and for Bimbo moved back home. Emma on his part begged Bimbo for forgiveness and promised never to stray again.
You can however imagine the shock on Emma's face six months later when he found out their eldest son was not his child. They were always taking the boy to the hospital every other week because he was always sick with malaria. Eventually he was diagnosed with sickle cell disease. Emma was very shocked. He was AA genotype so there was no way any of his kids would be sickle cell patient the highest they could be was a carrier. He mentioned this to the doctor who insisted that the boy was a sickler. He took the boy to two other hospital to confirm this, and that was when he now confronted his wife. Eventually the wife confessed that she had been sleeping with her boss in the office, and that they had been at it for close to 4 years now, but she had ended the affair after she caught Emma cheating on her. She saw how remorseful he was afterwards and she now decided to end the affair knowing she had no justification for her anger when she was guilty of the same thing. She now begging Emma for forgiveness.
Now Emma's problem is even if he forgives his wife how can he live with the fact that he is fathering another man's child. The child would always be a constant reminder of his wife's unfaithfulness. How is he going to live with this for the rest of his life?
Please readers let's hear your views on this. Comments would be appreciated.

TEMPTATIONS

WOW its been close to two years now since the last time I posted here. Hey pipo I am really really sorry. I have been extremely busy I barely have time for myself. However, I promise that going forward now I am going to be consistent once again.

Hmm there are a lot of things to talk about, but we can't take all once. So I going to be bringing it bits by bits.
Today we are going to be talking about couples living apart. Back then, Dad was a policeman and he was always on the move. Today he is Lagos state, next thing he has been transferred to Borno just like that. We don't go with him immediately when the transfer comes, most times because of our school at other times maybe mom does not just feel up to it. However, all that changed when the man had impregnated a girl leading to the birth of my little brother. I can remember the bouhaha this caused in my home. All my dad was saying then, was that MAN CANNOT LIVE ALONE....LOL you can imagine.

These days, we have lotsa couple living apart. In these days of economic hardship, most people wud want to keep their jobs so they hardly complain when they get transferred most especially when it comes with promotion and all other goodies. However, for the men its always a tricky one.
Take this scenario. Young bloke married with kids and working in Lagos, gets transferred to Abuja. Not long after he arrives Abuja he meets this lady in her mid or late thirties possibly 40s and they got friendly. Knowing fully well that he is married (at least she sees the wedding band on his finger) she throws herself on him. Well guy looks at it, Wifey is not around, and guy may sometimes need company. The lady in question is quite comfortable, she drives a good car, got her own house in a choice area,
and got a good business for back up. So its not like she's going to be an extra burden on you. You reason what the heck have you got to lose at least she knows you've got a family and you don't need a second wife.
However you are mis calculating because very soon, she starts getting very much into you. She starts complaining how she can't sleep every weekend you travel to see your family. Then finally one night she drops the big one....she says honey I want you to give me a child. Don't worry I won't bother you with the child I'm going to siglehandly take care of the baby. If you don't even want the baby to ansa your name its okay I don't mind ... All I want is give me a child.
At this point, a lot of guys get confused, but the wise ones always want to back out. I know a lot of women would want to have my head for this post hehehe but hey I'm only been realistic here. This is happening everyday. Some women would want to ask that if it were the other way round how would it look like. As in if it was the woman that got transferred and she meets a man who knowing fully well she's married still goes after her. Well me I nor know for that one Ooo, women can hold themselves more than men but personally I don't think its wise for couples to stay apart, temptations can come in different forms and when it does the end is usually not palatable. Cheers.