SAINTS AND SINNERS

I got an email from a lady who claimed she's been reading my blog for sometime now. she told me that I am biased in my write up because I tend to criticize women and young ladies alot . In her words she said that for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction, and that without men who patronize runz girls there won't be runz girls. She asked me if I knew how the word Aristo came to play and who the real Aristos are, she said aristos are married men who will not stick to their wives but instead run around with young girls splashing money and gifts on them. She was indeed angry with me that I am making it look as if its the girls that go after these men. Lol.

Well I want to state that I have no apologies for the things that I write about. I write about relationships and everyday life as it concerns men and women. I am not trying to change the world or preach to anybody, I am saying it as I see it and do hope that the things that i write about, the stories I tell, can someday be of help to somebody out there. However I want to thank the lady for taking time out to read my blog. You know when I initially started blogging, I was afraid that I was just writing and posting it out there without anybody really reading it....her email to me and the fact that I now have some followers have really gingered my spirit. The other day, Madame Sting of Nigeria scorpio.com made mention of my blog in one of her post and even posted a link to it. This has really increased traffic to my blog and I want to use this opportunity to say a big thank you to her, and I want her to know that shes highly appreciated.

Now, have I really been biased in my write up? well I would leave that to you to judge. But I know that I have written lots of ill stuff about men too. When I wrote about the spy who loved me, was I been biased? When I wrote about Randy men, was I been biased in my write up? I would like people to veiw things objectively before drawing conclusion. I'm just an everyday guy and I won't claim to be a saint but then again, when something is not right, then its just not right. I am what you call a street man. I grew up on the street and still live on the street, so there is nothing anybody can tell me about what goes on on the street. When young grils sell their bodies for money, and claim its survival series, I laugh at them, because they only end up been devalued. I have seen lots of girls rise from the depth of poverty to become big time people in the society, not from runz but through hard work and  sheer determination. Now, I am not saying that these girls were saints but somehow they were able to rise above that mentality of back for ground money for hand. I once saw a sticker that says Money only impress lazy girls. When a woman works hard, a man with money is just a bonus, and not a ladder to upgrade. I think this is what these so called runz girls should know.

Enough said on this. well the year 2012 is gradually winding down, and we are approaching the new year with so much expectations.At the end of every year I always take time out to view how well I fared in the past year. For this year, I must say a very big thank you to God, because the year has really been good to me. I am not one of those that do the new year resolution stuff, because I do not say things that I know I cant do. However, this is wishing you all a very merry christmas and prosperrous new year !!!

RANDY OLD MEN

About 2 weeks ago, I was hanging out with some friends and one of them said something that got us all thinking. He said men feel cool hanging out and having fun, sleeping with different girls and cheating on their wives while the women are at home taking care of the kids and playing the good and faithful wife. However, have we ever thought that two can play the game? What would be  our reaction if we found out that our wives were cheating on us, just as we are doing the same thing. When he said this, the table went quiet for sometime as everybody was trying to digest the effect of what he said.  In response somebody on the table shouted, tufiakwa, abomination !!!  How can the woman even think of such thing, let alone commit the actual act. He said that our traditions and culture abhors such behaviour from women and that any woman that does that surely would have herself to blame.

Then again yesterday, I was reading through some threads on Nigerian adult forum and this same topic came up. That why is it generally accepted that its okay for a man to commit adultery and cheat on his wife, but its not okay for the woman to do the same. The poster asked why must it be, that while oga plays away at any flimsy excuse the woman is made to stay at home and work it out even when the man continues to starve her of sex she's made to stay at home lonely, and horny and still remain the good house wife. A lot of arguments were raised on this and it almost turned into a battle of the sexes. However, the general conclusion was that what is good for the geese should also be given to the gander....lol.

Yes, it is true that our culture is oppressive to the women folk, that is why my friend the other day at the bar saw it as an abomination for a woman to commit adultery. However, when asked if it is okay for the man to sleep around then why is it not okay for the woman to do the same....his reply was that its a man's world. I have however, found out that this statement, that its a 'man's world'  gets a lot of ladies crazy because they believe that theres no position in life that a woman cannot fit into so in their opinion, what really makes it a man's world? and what gives men the leeway to cheat on their wives and the women not been able to do the same?  Women are being advised to stay and endure in their marriages even when she finds out that the husband is a chronic cheat whereas any woman who cheats on her husband is looked upon as a slut and disgraced. I have seen cases of some women been paraded naked just because she was caught commiting adultery. What now, is the moral compass that is being used to judge both sexes? Please note that I am not in anyway encouraging adultery for women.

In my opinion I believe that theres no justification for adultery either from the man or the woman once married its advisable to stick to your partner, however the society tend to be prejudiced towards the women and it has been like that for ages. I share in the pain of these women and really know that this is unfair. I know a lot of women endure their cheating husband for the sake of their marriages and children, and must say I commend such women. It is really heartbreaking for such women when their husband goes around spreading his seed in every available hole (Pardon my language pls) while shes at home horny and lonely, yet she still endures in all of this.

So in view of the above, I'm putting this question up for all the randy old men out there who find it difficult to stick to their wives.....what would be your reaction if you found out that your wife is cheating on you too as a payback for what you have been doing? Do please drop your comments on this and let me know what you think.

WOMEN SEX AND MONEY.

This morning I was reading some comments on facebook and came across this post by a lady, which said that "a relationship that does not get you to the altar should at least get you to the bank, and not just the bedroom or the kitchen" I had a good laugh over it, but then again it brought to mind the issue of women, sex and money. Severally I have heard this phrase that there's no romance without finance. I don't know how true that is, but Seeing that comment reminds me of the mentality of some Nigerian women who believe that their body is an avenue to wealth.

For them, getting into a relationship with them means taking care of all their needs, and so they would assess any prospective toaster to see if he can cope with their demands. Their assessment of you involves, the kind of car you drive, where you live, and how you dress. Here in Nigeria, girls believe that if you have to be hitting on them then you have to show appreciation which comes in form of money and taking care of all their needs. Its no more an issue of loving you for who you are, but loving you for what I can get from you. I believe it seriously demeans a woman when money becomes the focal point in any relationship. However, their arguement is that they need money to take care of themselves, they need money to make themselves beautiful and attractive, so you, the man in their life have to provide that money, irrespective of the fact that some of them are actually working. Let us agree that is is in our African culture for the man to take care of the woman but like I said earlier when money becomes the focal point in every relationship then it leaves much to be desired.

One can attribute all these to the level of poverty in our society. In a society with so much poverty in the land, the values are simply thrown away and greed takes its place. We have seen instances where some girls due to their love for money  would leave their boyfriends who they really loved and marry a super rich guy because they want comfort and wealth and most times those marriages dont end well. Its either they are been maltreated by their hubby who sees himself as their God because he obviously provides all their needs or they resort to infidelity because they dont really love their husband, it is the money, and the comfort they love. Its a common thing these days to see young girls engaging in prostitution which they now call runz, all in the bid to meet up. What really irks me is our undergraduate girls in the university who will gladly sell body for money. They will tell you there are not into prostitution but rather what they are doing is runz or aristo. I wonder what the difference is between the runz and prostitution. I seriously fear for our future generation and what they would turn out to be. Its biblical that the love for money is the root of all evil. and every evil act usually leads its victim on a long and tortous journey to self destruction and perdition. However, in all of these there are still a few good girls who understand that money can't  really buy love. I do hope and pray for these aristo girls to understand this and come to the realization, that most times its not all about the money, but your dignity as a woman matters alot.