JOLLY PAPA

According to the good books, there is time for everything. There's a time to be born, there's a time to grow, there's a time to play and there's a time to get serious . If at the appointed time however, you do not act accordingly, that time will pass you by and you will have yourself to blame as time waits for nobody.
When we were born into the world, it is expected that at a certain age u are expected to have started school. If you are not in school at that time, eyebrows are raised at your parents as in why you still at home. At another stage it is expected that you should have finished both you elementary and secondary school and you ought to be in the university. So when all your mates are in the university and you are still battling with JAMB, the world seem to come down on you. Also at the point when all your mates have graduated from school, and you spending your 8th year for a four years course...you will surely not be in the good books of anyone, not your parents nor siblings nor even your friends.
So it is when you become a full grown man. It will get to a point when all your mates are getting married and settling down. It is expected that you act accordingly. However this seem not to be the case these days. A lot of brothers are afraid of commitment and so try to shy away from anything as close as to what you call marriage. You have them in their 40s going on to 50s and they are still single. I call them Jolly papas. When you ask them they tell you that getting married is throwing away your freedom. Sometimes I wonder what freedom it is they r talking about, because even as married as a lot of men are, they still hang out in the clubs and bar when they want to. They still have all the groove and fun they had as bachelors only this time they do it in moderation. So it baffles me when these men shy away from marriage.