FAKING THE BIG O

Today’s post is going to be a little bit vulgar. Please pardon me if you find this offensive but it is something that I really think should be addressed.

I sometimes find it quite amusing that a lot of women have had to fake orgasm in order to please their men or boost their ego as the case may be. What then is the essence of making love, is it just to please your man or boost his ego? Sex to these women is just a duty to please their husbands or partners rather than for their own sexual satisfaction. Most women have so perfected the art of faking it such that it is difficult to tell when it is real. 

I was having a hair cut in a unisex salon last weekend in Port Harcourt when I overheard a group of women discussing about the big O. These women were all in their 40s. One of them jokingly said that her session with her man the previous night was so intense that she had to fake orgasm to hasten him up since she was pretty tired from work and her man had insisted on having his way. Another one asked her what if her hubby had found out that she was faking it because her hubby found out that she sometimes fakes it. She said she was quite surprised when her hubby told her to stop faking orgasm because he knew she was, they all had a good laugh. 

A lot of reasons were given why women tend to fake orgasm. Some have said they fake it to avoid negative emotions that may arise, others claim they do it out of fear and yet some others say that they just don’t want to hurt the feelings of their spouses, but the question is…. Do they really need to fake it?

I believe that it is every man’s wish to please his partner, so it is left for the women to show their man how to please them rather than pretending that all is well. The pretense and the fact that they are faking it is what will eventually diminish the man’s ego rather than boosting it because when he finds out, it will be devastating to know that he has not been hitting it right. It is imperative that you guide your man towards the right spots that will help you achieve orgasm. When you have orgasms with the help of your partner, it helps build a bond that will strengthen your marriage/relationship. It also helps to build your sexual drive that will make you crave for sex more than you ordinarily will, so you might turn out been the aggressor  at the end of the day and you will also find out that issue of been tired will no longer be there.

However, like I have always advised, communication is key. There is nothing stopping you from letting your man know he is not doing it right rather than pretending. Sex is a beautiful thing that has been ordained by God to be enjoyed within the context of marriage so every woman has the right to that enjoyment and satisfaction and you are not an exception. 

So the ladies out there be confident and let us know when we misfire…lol.

Do have a great weekend !