KISS AND TELL

At the usual boys corner, where we all gather after work to have some drinks and cool off after the day’s work, the topic that was been discussed  was a very intense one. The question was asked…..”Can you marry a girl that had dated your friend? There were a lot of reactions to this question that had generated a huge argument at the table.

Kelvin, a guy in his late 30s said he cannot live with the fact that his friend had once seen the nakedness of his wife, and that any time that thought comes to his mind it will make him detest that wife of his. When reminded that they may have dated a long time ago and that relationship had ended and may have been long forgotten, he retorted that it still dose not matter. He said any time his friend comes to his house he will be very much unhappy knowing that his wife and friend had once shared a bed. However, Bolaji his friend saw nothing wrong in that. As far as he was concerned, that relationship  has long been buried so he saw no reason why he should bother about what has happened in the past most especially since it happened before he knew his wife. 

The discussion today had actually started when somebody complained about how ex minister of aviation Femi Fani-Kayode had publicly boasted about how he had dated certain women, respectably married women that were popular in the society. To some, it was wrong of him to publicly come out and declare that he had intimate relationship with these women, knowing fully well that they were respectably married women, (even if they were not married), while to others they saw nothing wrong in what he did, been that he had actually dated them in the past, before they got married and was obviously trying to emphasize the fact that he had nothing against the Igbo people since he was been labeled as a tribalist. Some argued that if he was trying to claim that he was a de-tribalised Nigerian, does it mean he had no male Igbo friends he could have used to buttress his points, rather than telling the whole world that he had an intimate relationship with these women. 

In my opinion, it was wrong of him to have publicly declared that he had intimate relationship with these women whether in the past or present. These women were married and should have been respected. That was highly irresponsible of him. You don’t make such unguarded utterances in the public without weighing the consequences of what you are about to say and then turn around to make apologies. Words once spoken can never be retrieved. How can the memory of the harm done be removed from the minds of these women and how can it be erased from the memory of countless of Nigerians who had read his article. How would he feel if somebody came out to make a public statement that he had slept with his wife? This is Africa, for crying out loud. How would he not know that you don’t make such unguarded statements concerning people’s wife and expect to go Scot free. 

Yes it is true that most men did not marry their wives as virgins, however, once married, they would want to psyche themselves up, that they are the only one she has ever been with, Men naturally are jealous beings, so when reminded about her past relationships or something that is remotely linked to her past, they tend to react negatively to it. So you will understand why the public outcry about Fani-Kayode’s utterances and why what he did was totally wrong. Words, once spoken can never be retrieved, that is why one has to be careful and weigh your words before you spill them out, most especially when you are a public figure. 

Also I find it very immature for a man like Kayode to kiss and tell.  Even as a young man back then we all knew that guys that kiss and tell would always be at logger heads with the ladies. I remember this story of a guy when we were still in school who goes around telling his friends that he has slept with some of group of girls on campus then. Somehow the gist got to these girls that this guy was spreading these rumors about them.  One evening one of the girls invited the boy to her room in the hostel and unknown to him, the other girls were hiding around. As soon as he entered the room, he was surrounded by several girls, some of them carrying broken bottles, knives, wood and different objects. He was asked to strip and show them what he said he has been using to sleep with them, after which he was given a thorough beating that evening. Then he was marched through the girls hostel with girls booing and taunting him. This is to tell you how serious it can get when women find out that you are the kiss and tell type. So for someone like Kayode, he ought to have known better. Sex is sacred and that's why its done indoors. So when you are the type that blabs after having an intimate relationship with women then be ready to incur their wrath. 

So guys do drop your comments and let me know what you feel about this kisandtellgate by Kayode.

JIGIDA WAIST BEADS

Hello everybody, it has been quite sometime now. I have really been busy these past few months and I have not had time to update this blog. I want to say I am sorry. However, today’s post is going to be a little bit explicit, so readers discretion is advised. 

The tradition of wearing waist beads is an age long tradition in Africa. The waist bead is synonymous with feminism and is mostly adorned by women in Africa. To some, it serves as an exclusive symbol of their femininity, and to others, its just a piece of jewelry for the adornment of the waist. Without the waist, women have nothing to show as proof of their sexy figures and so, it is not out of place to see women wearing beads to beautify the waist. 

In Nigeria, the wearing of waist bead is wide spread across the various nationalities that make up the country. The Hausas called it Jigida, The yoruba’s call it ileke or Ladigba, The Igbos call it Mbgaji. These various ethnic groups wear it for various reasons> Some women claim that they wear beads to help them keep their figures because when the beads get tight, they know they would have to work on their weight. For some, its mainly spiritual, while for others they wear it to prevent themselves from negative energy, especially pregnant women. While for some others they believe that it possesses intimate appeal and has the power to provoke deep emotional response from the opposite sex. In Yoruba land it is believed that the beads helps to portray the chastity of a maiden or women sensuality.

However, today’s post is informed by a story I read online about a girl from Kwara state, whose grandmother placed beads on her waist and told her that the waist beads can only be broken if and only when she marries someone from her village and as such, no one could have sexual penetration with her until she gets married, and it must be to someone from her village. According to the story, she had several relationships with various guys and all had ended abruptly, most especially after having sexual intimacy with them as they all end up ejaculating before they could enter her.  She had had several encounters with different men and the story was always the same, so much so that it became a known thing in town, with most guys avoiding her while some others trying to get close to find out if its really true.

I had a good laugh after reading this. I wont say I have a problem with what the grand mother did, because to me, its just a way of ensuring that the grand daughter kept her chastity till marriage. However, the problem is with the clause that the girl must marry from her village. If she nor come see man wen she like from her village nko? Lol, or if she falls in love with a man from another state and they decides to get married what will happen? Well, this is a case of a good intention turned bad. The rumour in town now is that the a spell has been cast on the girl. 

It is cases like this that make lots of guys avoid girls with beads on their waist. They believe that most of these waist beads have some spiritual undertone on it. Some believe that some of these girls wearing waist beads belong to the occult world. There was this story I heard too about a runz girl who in her bid to make good money from politician clients went to a native doctor to prepare a charm for her. The native doctor gave her a waist bead to put on her waist and of course this bead made her rich because any man that slept with her spent a fortune on her would not want to leave her. In no time, she had houses all over Abuja and was cruising around in good cars. Eventually it was time for her to settle down and she met a guy whom she settled with. However, the problem was that she could not conceive, and she kept having nightmares of babies laughing at her with money on their mouth, and her former clients pursuing her both in her dreams and in real life, because they could not let go. She was at loss as to what to do, as it was clear that the charm had its repercussion. She did not know whether to tell her hubby about her past and seek help, or bear the pain alone.

Personally, I don’t have a problem with women wearing waist beads. I see it as an excellent way for women to feel more beautiful and feminine. To lots of men it’s a huge turn on for them. In the Fulani culture, a married woman wears about 8-9 beads on her waist, so that when she walks it makes lots of noise and people would know shes married. However, the beads can only be seen by her hubby and other females around her. The wearing of beads by women these days has added a new dimension to the fashion world in Nigeria. While some men detest it, some others encourage their partners to get them as it makes them more sensual and attractive. So it is different strokes for different folks.

Do tell, what is your opinion on waist beads? Please share your thoughts on this.

MOTHER AND CHILD

Sunday was mothering Sunday, and a whole lot of people were sending out messages to their mothers and updating their status on facebook telling everyone how they love their mom and all that. There was this particular tweet someone tweeted on twitter that made me laugh so hard.  It said, “Mothers are so fond of their children because they are very sure they are their own, unlike the fathers who are not so very sure”…..lol.  However that’s a story for another day.  Also, I saw lots of women who not only put up their mother’s pictures on facebook, but also that of the mother  in law as well. I was very impressed with this. I know lots of women these days do not get along with their mother in law . Sometimes there is this rivalry between women and their mother in law which if not properly handled may lead to serious problem within the family. I did experience this in the early years of my marriage.

I happen to be the only child of my mother (Dad had a child from another woman) and I lost dad when I just left secondary school so it was just my mum and I and we were so close. My wife and I started dating in my second year in the university and funny as it may seem, the first time I took my wife home and introduced her to my mother as my girlfriend my mum developed instant likeness for her so much so that they became so close then.  She was like the daughter she never had. They became so close that they were virtually doing everything together….. going to the market together, doing stuffs together and all that. So you can imagine how confused I was, when years later after we got married, my wife and my mom started having issues.  I immediately understood that these issues spun from the fact that my mom felt that I was no longer giving her the attention I use to give her, so she was doing everything to crave that attention. My wife on the other hand was of the opinion that my mum was been too worrisome and she should cut me some slacks, and understand that things are a bit different now.  So I had to call both women separately and explain to them that if they really want my happiness then they need to stop acting up. I was able to arrest the situation and put each woman in her right place. My mum is my mum, while my wife is my wife. They both have different roles they play in my life and the earlier they understand that, the better it would be for all of us.  Right now things have gone back the way it used to be and I’m happy about this. I laugh these days when they both gang up against me, most especially when one of them needs me to do something, they form alliance against me and I grudgingly give in. They now have this mother and child relationship once again, and we are one big happy family again.

The relationship between mothers and their son cannot be over emphasized . There is this close bond between them, most especially when the son happen to be the first child or the last child or the only son or only child. The mothers always fail to realize that her little boy would one day grow up to be a man and would go on and have his own family.

There is this story a colleague  told me about a friend of his whose closeness to his mother has prevented him from getting married. He said that every girlfriend he has had, refused to marry him because of his affinity to his mother. He always made them understand that he cannot live separately from his mother and his mother will live with them under the same roof when they eventually get married. It is not as if he cannot afford to set his mother up somewhere else as he is well loaded and have houses in different places in both Lagos and his hometown, but he is insisting that his mother would live with him. In most cases the girls get scared and refuse to go into the marriage. However, the mother has realized that she seem to be the problem of her son and that their closeness together is what is affecting him and preventing him from getting married and has since relocated abroad. Now it’s not as if the mother cannot live with him as the case may be, but it’s obvious in this case that the kind of bond that mother and son share is so tight that it would definitely put a stress on the marriage when eventually he gets married. The good thing here, however is that the mother has been able to realize this and try to create the enabling environment for her son to move forward. Not all mothers can do this. Please send me your comments and let me know what you think about the relationship between wives and mother in law.

 

 

 

 

BEDROOM WAHALA

Hello people, it’s been quite some time since I came in here. Work has been pressing so I barely have time . However, a lot has been happening around. Today’s post is going be a very long one, hope you take your time to read through it.

About two weeks ago I noticed that my friend Eke was not looking his usual self. He seem to have lost weight considerably Eke was what you would call a jolly good fellow, always fun to be with and there’s never a dull moment with him, so you can imagine my concern when he came into the bar we usually hung out and sat quietly nursing a bottle of beer and lost in his thoughts. He was not contributing to what we were discussing and seem to be in a world of his own. The Eke that I knew would always want to dominate the discussion and would not even allow others to talk, but on this particular day, things were different which made me believe something must have gone wrong. I quickly concluded that it must have been the close down of Ladipo market . Eke imports auto spare parts and sells wholesale to traders at ladipo so I felt the close down must have been affecting him.

Later that evening, he called me aside, and started complaining about his wife to me. They have been married for nine years and they have an eight year old boy. He said for some months now, his wife has been refusing him sex for no reasons, and that right now, they are no longer on speaking terms with each other at home and his home has become so unbearable for him so much so that he detests going home. I advised him to sit his wife down and talk to her and try to find out what the problem is. He told me that he has tried severally to do this, but its not working for him. He asked me to come talk to his wife. I wondered why he wanted me to talk to his wife and how I was going to start such a discussion. I however, agreed when he reminded me that his wife respects me a lot and looks up to me as an elder brother. (I was the one that introduced both of them together, the wife was my cousin’s best friend and they had both lived with me during their youth service year)

That weekend I went to their house to see them. His wife was so happy to see me. She didn’t seem like a woman who was unhappy and they appeared to have mended fences. When she went to get us drinks, I quickly asked Eke if all was well now, and to which he answered negative. He said that he was quite surprised that she was gisting with him now as if everything was fine. He asked me to still go ahead and talk to her and find out what the problem is. When I called her aside later to ask what the problem is, she told me that there was no problem and that she was surprised that Eke told me that they had issues. She called Eke and asked him in my presence if it was true that he told me that they had issues, Eke could not reply, he simply kept quiet. So I concluded that Eke was the problem but I couldn’t really pinpoint what the real issue was, so I allowed the matter to die because I didn’t know how I was going to proceed from there since I knew the crux of the matter has to do with the bedroom. I simply advised them to sort out themselves.

However, two nights ago, my phone rang late at night ,and when I looked at it, I found out that it was Eke’s wife that was calling me. I reluctantly picked up the call, only to hear the voice of their little boy saying , 'Uncle please come to our house quickly, my mummy and daddy are fighting. I tried to call back, to find out what was really happening, but the phone was not connecting anymore as it had been switched off. I called Mike, a mutual friend of ours and told him what was happening and he said we should meet at Eke’s place. I got there 30minutes later and met Mike who was already there. When I entered the house, the whole place was in disarray. I saw Eke sitting at the dining table looking so lost and frustrated. As I was about to approach him to find out what the problem was I saw his wife coming out from one of the rooms dragging a big box and their little boy crying behind her. I went up to her and tried to find out from her what the problem was. Justthen, she started crying and saying she can’t take this anymore. I allowed her to cry and she calmed down after a while and sat down. She asked her son to go his room that she will soon be with him and She asked Mike and I to sit down and then she started talking.

She said that for the past 2years Eke has been having issues with his manhood. He is barely able to get it up and that most times she would need to work on it for close to two hours before he will get partial erection and even at that, he’s barely able to sustain it leaving her frustrated and in need. She said she had advised him severally to seek help, but he keep saying he’s okay. She said it got to a point she decided there was no need getting intimate, because of what use will it be when she cannot get any satisfaction from it. However, every now and then Eke keeps pestering her for sex knowing how difficult it is for him to get erection and how most times he ends up ejaculating even before penetration. She said she decided to bear all these believing that one day things would get back to normal. She said she has been suffering in silence and has not told anyone about this not even her friends, and was quite surprised when I asked her two weeks ago if they had issues. She had decided not to say anything not wanting hurt his ego believing that he had decided to get help since he told me, but she later realized that I did not know what was really going on. Ever since then she has been pressurizing him on the need to get help but he has bluntly refused yet he wants to get intimate and when she refuses he gets angry and violent.

I looked at Eke, and wondered why he has kept this to himself all these while and has refused to get help. As far as I know there's nothing to be ashamed of here. 60 to 70 percent of men between the ages of 40-70 years experience erectile dysfunction at one point in their lives and this may be due to anxiety, depression, or psychological problems, however seeking help in the right direction often goes a long way in sorting this out. I pointed this out to Eke and told him that he should even be happy that he has a good and faithful wife. I often wonder why most men are ashamed to come to terms with erectile dysfunction. Having erectile dysfunction is not the end of the world and its something that happens in 1 out of every 10 men. The good thing is that it can be handled and treated so I see no reason why it should be hidden. Overall treatment for ED have improved significantly in recent years. These days most people are eventually able to get back to successful intercourse. So for those men out there experiencing this problem, do take a bold step and seek help. And for the wives that are affected, do not relent in your effort in helping your man.

Do send me your comments and let me know what you think about this. Cheers

 

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

The Lyrics of the song "when a man loves a woman" originally done by Percy Sledge in 1966
and covered again by Michael Bolton in 1991, captures the exact scenario of whats happening
with Gift a 37 years old guy. The writer of that song stated that when a man loves a woman
he can't keep his mind on notin else and would trade the world for her. And if she is bad, he
can't see it, because she can do no wrong, as he turns his back on his best friends if they
try to put her down, even when she's playing him for a fool because he's usually the last
one to know, as his loving eyes can never see.

 Gift and Abike has been married for 3 years and are without any kid. Gift came back from work sometime in december (he works for an oil company and spends 2 weeks offshore) to
meet an empty apartment. His wife had parked out of the house prior to his arrival. According to him, there was no quarrel or misunderstanding between them and all had been well and good with them. So you can imagine his shock when he came back and met an empty house.He tried to call her through out that day but her phone was switched off. He was very worried as he had spoken to her the
previous night and she had not told him she was going anywhere. He couldnt sleep that night and went round all her friends place to look for her but no one seem to know her wherabout. The next day she called him to tell him not to bother searching for her because she won't be coming back home as shes no longer interested in the marriage. Gift was so surprised by her behaviour and he asked her
what the problem is? she could not come up with anything tangible, but all she kept saying was that she dosen't want the marriage anymore. Gift got in touch with her uncle, who was like a father to her since she had lost her father when she was young, to find out if he knew what the problem is, but he too was at loss. However, after so much hassles the uncle was able to convince her to come out of her hiding and come see him so they could talk things over. When asked what the problem is...she said she no longer wanted to be married and that she married because all her friends were getting married and not because she really wanted to be married. She advised Gift to move on with his life and let her be. At this point, Gift started pleading with her to change her mind and come back home with him, and when he saw that she was not willing to bulge, he threatened to commit sucide if she dosent come back to him.

However, as far as Gift's friends were concerned. Abike was good riddance to bad rubbish. They told Gift to be happy, she had left on her own accord and should start celeberating because Abike was not exactly the wife material. They told him of all her many escapades when he is not in town, and how she goes around, drinking in different bars, clubbing and sleeping with different men. What kind of married woman would go clubbing everyday dressed in bumper shorts and skimpy clothes, they told him. Two of his friends confirmed how they met her twice in an hotel with a man she claims was her boss. They told him they could not tell him before now because they did not know how he would react to it, so in view of all these they told him to move on with his life, just as she had advise. Gift on the other hand is adamant, saying that in spite of all what he has been told, he still want his wife back. His family has however told him that they would disown him if his wife comes back to his house because they have been telling him of her nefarious activities before now yet he has refused to act on it. They told him it was obvious she was not just ready for marriage and that its even a good thing that she has left.

Right now, Gift is not on speaking terms with his friends and family....he has told everyone
to leave him alone and let him bear his cross himself. Now the question is this....given what Gift knows about his wife, given the fact that she has refused to come back to the house, why is Gift still begging her to come back? Could this be love or is there something we really dont know? Well we may not be able to answer all these questions begging for answers but the truth remains that the man is actually in love and nothing is going to change that. Theres a parable where I come from which says that it is better to give birth to a thief than to give birth to a fool. Well I dont know how true that is, but I am of the opinion that something is terribly wrong somewhere and very soon we will all get to know. Because it's either there's something wrong, or Gift is just plainly been stupid or he has been jazzed. No Naija man in his right senses will watch his wife turn public property up to the extent of parking out of the house and would still be begging her to come back like Gift is doing. This is really a case of when a man loves a woman he can trade the world for her....like Gift is doing right now. And this is exactly what we get when we marry for the wrong reasons. you dont marry a girl because you think shes the most beautiful girl in the world, and as a woman you dont marry when you not just ready to....just because your friends are getting married.

Please send in your comments and let me know what you think. Cheers.

WHO'S THE BOSS

Back in the days, there was this song by Gwen Gutrie an American singer which was titled "Aint Nothing goin on but the rent" In the chorus of that song you can hear her telling her man, you gotta have a J-O-B, if you wanna be with me. Yes its true that theres no romance without finance.  Its a common thing these days to see women taking on the responsibilities of the breadwinner in many homes today and gradually the traditional roles in the home is now shifting as the moms are now becoming the workers while the men are now becoming the stay home dads.....how sad.

This is however, causing a lot of rift in some households because the men are finding it difficult to switch roles. Traditional Nigeria family systems are becoming transformed, or are under strain, as in many parts of the world, particularly as women stake claim to greater equality. Man’s role from youth had been defined such that providing food for the woman and her posterity is an obligation. However, the economic recession is such that its putting so much strain on the family. The man's income may not be enough to cater for the entire family or he may have lost his job thereby forcing the women to work to assist the family and gradually she assumes the role of the breadwinner. This however does not go down well with most men as the ordianed head of the family.

I had a friend who once told me that he grew up in a home where his mom was the breadwinner of the house and it got to a stage in their life that they as children no longer respected their dad in the house because it now seem that it was their mom that was responsible for their wellbeing. Due to this fact, he had vowed that he would never be in a situation where a woman would have to fend for him. Todays post is been informed by what is happening between my friend Jerome and his wife Tessy who are having issues originating from the fact that Jerome had lost his job.

 Jerome was doing well in his job as an area manager in one of the new generation banks until he got sacked  about 2 years ago. Alhough he had built a house in Lekki, things got tough for him as he was dead broke and his wife was the one taking care of the home. He had tried to go into business but it was not just working for him. Now he's contemplating selling his house in Lekki and relocating the family abroad. However, the wife who works as a medical doctor in one of these high profile
 hospitals in Lagos is seriously against the move and this is causing ripples in the family. According to her, shes not comfortable with going abroad to start a new life when she has a well paying job here. She said that even with the fact that Jerome had lost his job, they were still living well as she is fully able to cater for the family needs pending when her hubby is able to get back on his feet again.  Jerome on his part is having issues with the fact that his wife was the one taking care of the family. According to him, he is gradually losing his posistion as the head of the house and  for him, that is the reason his wife would oppose his decision to relocate the family abroad. He says his kids no longer come to him when they need anything, instead they go to their mom. He also said that he's tired of having to ask for money from his wife everytime he needs money even to fuel his car. He says he feels he's no longer in control of his family as he's gradually losing his role as the head of the house....a claim which his wife refuted.

From what I was able to gather, Jerome is a man struggling with the definition of masculine and feminine roles which has led to insecurity and complex on his part and this is gradually destroying his ego. I made him realize that the sooner he comes back to reality the better it would be for him, because relocating the family to face the unknown abroad was as good as putting a gun in his mouth and shooting himself. Yes I can understand that he's having difficulty trying to get his himself together, however he should be careful not to make a hush decision. From what I have seen, his wife has been supportive of him so he should on his part let go of that masculine ego and try to restructure his life. He is still in charge as far as I know, just that he seem to be losing confidence in himself.
Jerome's case is what lots of men go through everyday. The pain of having to switch roles as the provider and bread winner of the house can sometimes be over bearing on them and so they tend to lose focus and make rather bad decisions which they may later regret. In all of these, I praise the good women like Tessy, who stand by their hubby in such trying times. There are lots of women that would do this, its just for the men to realize that being the bread winner for the family dosen't neccesirily translate to been the head of the family in an ideal home as far as the couples have mutual respect for each other. So guys, skip the I'm the man of the house idea and focus on getting back on your feet. Like we have always known, behind every sucessful man theres a woman....abi nor be so dem talk am? lol
I would like to use this opportunity to say a HAPPY NEW YEAR to y'all. Do have a prosperous year ahead. Cheers. 

SAINTS AND SINNERS

I got an email from a lady who claimed she's been reading my blog for sometime now. she told me that I am biased in my write up because I tend to criticize women and young ladies alot . In her words she said that for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction, and that without men who patronize runz girls there won't be runz girls. She asked me if I knew how the word Aristo came to play and who the real Aristos are, she said aristos are married men who will not stick to their wives but instead run around with young girls splashing money and gifts on them. She was indeed angry with me that I am making it look as if its the girls that go after these men. Lol.

Well I want to state that I have no apologies for the things that I write about. I write about relationships and everyday life as it concerns men and women. I am not trying to change the world or preach to anybody, I am saying it as I see it and do hope that the things that i write about, the stories I tell, can someday be of help to somebody out there. However I want to thank the lady for taking time out to read my blog. You know when I initially started blogging, I was afraid that I was just writing and posting it out there without anybody really reading it....her email to me and the fact that I now have some followers have really gingered my spirit. The other day, Madame Sting of Nigeria scorpio.com made mention of my blog in one of her post and even posted a link to it. This has really increased traffic to my blog and I want to use this opportunity to say a big thank you to her, and I want her to know that shes highly appreciated.

Now, have I really been biased in my write up? well I would leave that to you to judge. But I know that I have written lots of ill stuff about men too. When I wrote about the spy who loved me, was I been biased? When I wrote about Randy men, was I been biased in my write up? I would like people to veiw things objectively before drawing conclusion. I'm just an everyday guy and I won't claim to be a saint but then again, when something is not right, then its just not right. I am what you call a street man. I grew up on the street and still live on the street, so there is nothing anybody can tell me about what goes on on the street. When young grils sell their bodies for money, and claim its survival series, I laugh at them, because they only end up been devalued. I have seen lots of girls rise from the depth of poverty to become big time people in the society, not from runz but through hard work and  sheer determination. Now, I am not saying that these girls were saints but somehow they were able to rise above that mentality of back for ground money for hand. I once saw a sticker that says Money only impress lazy girls. When a woman works hard, a man with money is just a bonus, and not a ladder to upgrade. I think this is what these so called runz girls should know.

Enough said on this. well the year 2012 is gradually winding down, and we are approaching the new year with so much expectations.At the end of every year I always take time out to view how well I fared in the past year. For this year, I must say a very big thank you to God, because the year has really been good to me. I am not one of those that do the new year resolution stuff, because I do not say things that I know I cant do. However, this is wishing you all a very merry christmas and prosperrous new year !!!