Hello people, its been quite a while since I posted here, about six months or thereabout. I keep promising to be regular here, but my schedule is so tight that I hardly have that time. There have been times that I have had so many things on my mind to write about, but can't just make out the time to sit down in front of my computer and type. Its so crazy....lol. In any case, I think I would be more consistent this time around ( I always make this promise though lol)
I was in a bar last night and I heard some men discussing about sex toys. The discussion was so intense and the arguements were so strong that you would think it would degenerate into a brawl. One of the guys, A tall lanky dude in his early forties was telling the rest of the guys that he had gotten a vibrator for his wife. They were like, what the f...k? Why does he need to get a sex toy for his wife? one of them made a joke that he was sure that the guy could no longer get it up and that was why he now needed the assistance of a vibrator to help his marriage. However, the guy was so calm and laughed at their ignorance. He took his time to explain to them that getting a sex toy for his wife does not mean he had problem with his sex life. he told them that the nature of his job made it difficult for him to be around most of the time and he felt it wise for him to get his wife a vibrator which he considered a much lesser evil to infidelity. The rest of the guys didnt feel that way. They argue that gradually the vibrator was going to take his place and that the wife would no longer enjoy his manhood as she would be more accustomed to the vibrator.
I sat at my corner and pondered on what they were saying. The issue of sex toys in Nigeria is gradually coming alive. I have a friend of mine, a lawyer, who lived in Abuja, who told me how he made lots of money selling sex toys in Abuja. He said that initially when he started the business he didnt think it would fly. Before he knew it, he became so popular so much so that he had to struggle to meet the demand. The issue of sex toys is something that is alien to our culture and that is why those men in the bar yesterday found it absurd that their friend got one for his wife. In my own opinion, I see nothing wrong in the use of sex toys and I dont see how any woman can replace any man with it or get so used to it. I think our attitude towards this stems from our general perception towards sex. There are still some of us who see sex as been sacred and solely for procreation. There are still some, that do not believe that the woman should enjoy sex. Yes even in our modern day Nigeria, we still have lots of them. Those are the kind of men that see no reason why their wives would crave for sex when they are not available. Those are the kind of men I saw in that bar last night.
So tell me what you think. Do you think the guy who bought a vibrator for his wife was wrong or his friends were wrong? send in your comments.
I was in a bar last night and I heard some men discussing about sex toys. The discussion was so intense and the arguements were so strong that you would think it would degenerate into a brawl. One of the guys, A tall lanky dude in his early forties was telling the rest of the guys that he had gotten a vibrator for his wife. They were like, what the f...k? Why does he need to get a sex toy for his wife? one of them made a joke that he was sure that the guy could no longer get it up and that was why he now needed the assistance of a vibrator to help his marriage. However, the guy was so calm and laughed at their ignorance. He took his time to explain to them that getting a sex toy for his wife does not mean he had problem with his sex life. he told them that the nature of his job made it difficult for him to be around most of the time and he felt it wise for him to get his wife a vibrator which he considered a much lesser evil to infidelity. The rest of the guys didnt feel that way. They argue that gradually the vibrator was going to take his place and that the wife would no longer enjoy his manhood as she would be more accustomed to the vibrator.
I sat at my corner and pondered on what they were saying. The issue of sex toys in Nigeria is gradually coming alive. I have a friend of mine, a lawyer, who lived in Abuja, who told me how he made lots of money selling sex toys in Abuja. He said that initially when he started the business he didnt think it would fly. Before he knew it, he became so popular so much so that he had to struggle to meet the demand. The issue of sex toys is something that is alien to our culture and that is why those men in the bar yesterday found it absurd that their friend got one for his wife. In my own opinion, I see nothing wrong in the use of sex toys and I dont see how any woman can replace any man with it or get so used to it. I think our attitude towards this stems from our general perception towards sex. There are still some of us who see sex as been sacred and solely for procreation. There are still some, that do not believe that the woman should enjoy sex. Yes even in our modern day Nigeria, we still have lots of them. Those are the kind of men that see no reason why their wives would crave for sex when they are not available. Those are the kind of men I saw in that bar last night.
So tell me what you think. Do you think the guy who bought a vibrator for his wife was wrong or his friends were wrong? send in your comments.
Like you rightly pointed out,sex toys are very foreign to us as a people.But they're going to create a niche in the nearest future.As it is,sex is taking a new turn in Nigeria,we're getting more open about and to it and all that concerns it.
ReplyDeleteThe earlier we embrace that openness the better for us. Thnxxx 9ja-great
ReplyDeletei think sex toys are very essential sef to spice up sexual activity...Our people are just very hypocritical and still prefare to talk about sex behind closed doors..so sad...
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