DOUBLE WAHALA

A friend of mine who visited me this morning was giving me gist about what happened in his area last night. According to him. There  are this two brothers on his street who had built their houses close to each other with only a fence separating them. Now, one of them was sick and the wife, without informing the brother took him to a prophet's house where he was kept for about 3 days. When she found out there was no improvement she now transferred him to the hospital
(still without informing the brother) where he died yesterday.  It was after he  had died, she now called the brother to inform him of what has happened. Now the brother and his family accusing the wife of killing their brother.

Now my thinking is this...why di1d'nt she inform the brother that her husband was sick, given the fact that they lived next door to each other. secondly why didnt she take him to the hospital first before seeking spritual help? Most times when i hear of cases like this, i often wonder what the women were thinking. There are alot of cases of people getting sick  and been taken to prophet house for spiritual healing. Now while I'm not against spiritual healing, I also believe that heaven help those who help themselves. The ideal thing is to seek medical attention first, and while that is going on
you can inform your pastor or prophet as the case may be. Miracle can be performed from anywhere, it does not necesarily have to be inside the church. Your pastor can pray from wherever he is and the healing would come. I remember long ago back then in Warri where i grew up. There was this guy in my area who was a very brillant guy. He was one of the brightest amongst us then. I cant say for sure what happened, but somehow he became mentally unstable, and instead of his parents to
take him to hospital for medical attention, they took him to a spiritual house for healing. Inside the spiritual home, he was locked up and chained in one room for days. One day they opened the room to find out that he had committed sucide with the wrapper they gave him to cover at night. Beside his bed he left a note blaming his parents for his action and saying he ought to be taken to the hospital not be locked up and chained. So for me I cant really blame the family of the man for accusing the wife of murder...given the fact that all the while the man was sick she had kept it away from the family. My friend told me that the family is saying that the woman poisoned the man or maybe made a love portion which later backfired. I wont want to jump into conclusions here, it may be that the brothers were having issues which is why the woman did not inform the brother but then cases like this, one need to be cautious. he should have informed at least one person from the man's family when she saw her hubby's condition was critical.

With the way our culture is as regards to the way wives are treated upon the demise of the husband, I fear for what will happen to this woman most especially on account how the man died. This is really a case of double wahala for dead body and the owner of dead body. Please send in your comments and let me know what you think about this. Cheers

BUSINESS MADE EASY

Last sunday my uncle in surulere called me for a family meeting in his house  On getting there I found out that my cousin had a problem with his wife. His wife had packed out of their house and was saying she was no longer interested in the marriage.She had narrated to us, how her husband frolicked with girls all over the town, and as if that was not enough, he had gone to the extent of recording his sexcapades on phone. She said one of such video has been uploaded on the internet
and its been circulated around on social network and blackberry phones. According to her, the most annoying part of it was that it was her friends that told her about the video and how it got to her friend she does not know. She further described how hubby was having sex with two girls in the video and how devastated she was when she found out that her hubby was even having oral sex with these girls. She said she was afraid for her life and that she might one day get infected.

My cousin on his part was very sorry for his indiscretion and told us he had no excuses whatsoever, as he did not know what came over over him. He told us how he was invited to a blackberry group by his friends. He said it was in the group that he met the girls. He said he didnt know that the girls were videotaping him all the while they were together. It was the girls that posted this video on the group and obviously uploaded it on the internet. On why they did it, he did not know.

The introduction of smartphones into the Nigeria market is a welcome developement for the upwardly mobile. You can operate your business from just anywhere you are with your andriod, galaxy tabs and blackberry phone. It is business made easy. And thats why you find out that these days prostitutes (Or runz girls as they choose to be called these days) dont really need to hang out on the street corners waiting for customers. All they need is to get a smartphone, take a few sexy pic
and post them on different dating site and social network media and then wait for their customers. There are so many of these sites that has tremendously helped their business. Sometimes you see them sending random messages to people on facebook asking to be added. Now how do you add somebody you dont know? I get these messages most times and when I check and find out I dont know them, and we dont even have mutual friends, I simply delete.

 The most painful part of this is that our undergraduates young girls in our tertiary institiutions are the worst culprits in all these. They have turned themselves into cheap commodities, selling their bodies to any available man all in the name of survival. With the use of blackberry they are able to send their nude pictures and videos to different men all in the name of phone sex. Every minute you see them changing their display picture on their blackberry phones all in the bid to attract would be customers. The level of moral decadence in our society is so applalling. I really pray for our young girls and I wonder what kind of mothers they would turn out to be.

Some days ago, I read somewhere of a girl who was about to get married, however, a few days before the marriage, gist came to the fiance that she used to be a big time runz girl when she was in school. The guy called off the marriage and of course the girl was heart broken. Some people argued that the guy was mean and that he never wanted to marry the girl, they said that what the girl did then, was purely for  survival, but then again are there not better ways to survive than selling your body. I really wish they would learn.

SEX TOYS

Hello people, its been quite a while since I posted here, about six months or thereabout. I keep promising to be regular here, but my schedule is so tight that I hardly have that time. There have been times that I have had so many things on my mind to write about, but can't just make out the time to sit down in front of my computer and type. Its so crazy....lol. In any case, I think I would be more consistent this time around ( I always make this promise though lol)

I was in  a bar last night and I heard some men discussing about sex toys. The discussion was so intense and the arguements were so strong that you would think it would degenerate into a brawl. One of the guys, A tall lanky dude in his early forties was telling the rest of the guys that he had gotten a vibrator for his wife. They were like, what the f...k? Why does he need to get a sex toy for his wife? one of them made a joke that he was sure that the guy could no longer get it up and that was why he now needed the assistance of a vibrator to help his marriage. However, the guy was so calm and laughed at their ignorance. He took his time to explain to them that getting a sex toy for his wife does not mean he had problem with his sex life. he told them that the nature of his job made it difficult for him to be around most of the time and he felt it wise for him to get his wife a vibrator which he considered a much lesser evil to infidelity. The rest of the guys didnt feel that way. They argue that gradually the vibrator was going to take his place and that the wife would no longer enjoy his manhood as she would be more accustomed to the vibrator.

I sat at my corner and pondered on what they were saying. The issue of sex toys in Nigeria is gradually coming alive. I have a friend of mine, a lawyer, who lived in Abuja, who told me how he made lots of money selling sex toys in Abuja. He said that initially when he started the business he didnt think it would fly. Before he knew it, he became so popular so much so that he had to struggle to meet the demand. The issue of sex toys is something that is alien to our culture and that is why those men in the bar yesterday found it absurd that their friend got one for his wife. In my own opinion, I see nothing wrong in the use of sex toys and I dont see how any woman can replace any man with it or get so used to it. I think our attitude towards this stems from our general perception towards sex. There are still some of us who see sex as been sacred and solely for procreation. There are still some, that do not believe that the woman should enjoy sex. Yes even in our modern day Nigeria, we still have lots of them. Those are the kind of men that see no reason why their wives would crave for sex when they are not available. Those are the kind of men I saw in that bar last night.

So tell me what you think. Do you think the guy who bought a vibrator for his wife was wrong or his friends were wrong? send in your comments.